All about perspective

We sometimes find ourselves in discussions or situations in which we disagree, where our interlocutor may seem aggressive, the tone rises because we do not understand each other, we end up saying things that we do not really mean, or not entirely, and which not only damage the relationship, but also do not advance the situation… Does that speak to you?

This kind of situation often makes us question ourselves, question the reasons why the discussion got out of hand, what pushed our interlocutor to be aggressive, or to talk to us as he/she did.

It can leave us bitter, angry, stressed, exhausted…

And when it gets to that point, it's hard to go back, the relationship suffered, we spent a lot of energy, and nothing constructive came out of it… A rather negative result!!

So why wait to get there to ask questions? What if you were wondering what can cause your interlocutor to react as he/she does during the discussion? What could be wrong with him/her? Maybe he/she was already upset, or the subject is sensitive…etc. Also, why are you reacting like this? What did this discussion touch in you that made you wince? What is it awakening and why?

Often, having a different perspective can change our view of the situation and who we are talking to. Changing our perspective can help us to accept that there can be an infinite number of reasons why a situation can get out of hand, which are probably not related to us or the subject of the discussion, and allow us to take a step back so as not to not commit ourselves to a negative outcome.

This is an additional step towards a better understanding of oneself and of others, towards constructive and positive communication. Coaching can help you in this process!

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